John chapter 1:1 of the NIV Bible states, “In the beginning was the Word, the Word was with God, and the Word was God. How powerful is this?! Life and living are grounded in Words, and to move from the spiritual realm to the secular, words have meanings in whatever state we are in, believers of faith or not. However, the power of words can also be sharper than a sword. They can cut beyond the flesh or bones and deep into the soul. I am ashamed that there was a time when my weapon of choice in an argument was words that offended. I was never one to use expletives, but I could wound a person with what some call fighting words. Today, older and wiser, I sought forgiveness through apologies from those I may have deeply offended. Some have forgiven me, while others chose not to. Today, I walk away from arguments because it isn’t worth it!
I am sharing this to say, words have a lasting effect, and in the heat of an argument, we may use words to inflict hurt as a means of immediate gratification, believing we won that fight. However, we often say what we do not mean, and the damage caused can be irreversible and unrepairable. Some of us have emotional battle scars, and those are the worse to inflict more hurt on through unkind words. Especially in an argument with those that are a part of our lives, we should be mindful that after the quarrel dies down, they are still a part of our history and maybe our future depending on our stance or approach to that conflict. Also, for those we view as non-entities in our lives, it’s equally as important not to cause pain through our words because we have no idea who we are fighting with or their life experiences. We don’t want to be responsible for another mass shooter bearing old malice. Life today is a challenge for many people; we have to remind ourselves of this. Remember, our words are our power, and we can use them effectively or destructively. It’s our call.