The first time I heard someone being referred to as emotionally bankrupt was as a young child. I became perplexed, trying to fully grasp exactly what it meant. I understood bankruptcy as something tangible; it is monetary, like losing money. Later on, I heard a Pastor state, “If all you have is money and not relationships, you are the poorest of the poor.” It took me almost years to fully understand these analogies of emotional bankruptcy. However, by my association with someone who is debt-free, owns several real estate, several vehicles, and the list goes on. Of course, everything paid up in full, but the tragedy of it, during my time on earth, I have never met anyone as poor!
The poverty is so striking that it makes me want to scratch my head almost every time they speak, and I don’t even have an itchy scalp. They refused to read a book and thought books were intended as space holders, not to be read. They have absolutely no interest in anyone else but their immediate family and self. The horror of this is they ran a multi-million-dollar company and is the decision-maker who affects the lives of others. I learned from this bird’s eye view what emotional bankruptcy truly means.
The obvious with them are signs of unresolved childhood issues masked by their denials that there are problems. They are not bad people but could threaten the emotional well-being of others. Trust for them is a serious struggle to extend to others, and they are always in a fighting mode; sadly, they feel that way when there is no enemy to fight. This is so sad; it’s beyond tears. What’s my point? Money doesn’t always equate to success; having healthy relationships are more valuable than money. Also, sometimes we interact with someone that seems impossible to get along with; we should tell ourselves we are not their problem and use those experiences to help us develop better-coping skills by being patient.